yesterday was harder, so far. Things hit me today and I feel things all over again, but her not being in her bed isn't unusual lately. I do see her bed and just want to curl up in it though. I think I am a bit numb and we have both been in a fog lately, walking into a room and not being able to figure out why we are there.
Both of us cried so much trying to get her ready to leave. As much as I tried not to carry on in front of M, she did see me cry about her leaving and I think that is ok. She often tells me in the middle of her times of crying, after I ask her if she is sad or mad, 'no, happy' through her blubbering mouth. So, I let her see me cry. It is ok to feel sadness or anger I told her so I thought it was good to live what I preach. Yesterday, in the bathroom a few minutes before she left, she saw me crying and said, "mommy crying a little". I said "yes" and she did what she does with her dolls as we hugged..."shhhhh, don't cry". patting me on the back. She has often told us "I love you too, I love you too" as we spent time together lately. Then there was the spontaneous gift that God gave me through her a week ago or so...I had been talking to her about her leaving and some tears slipped out. She said, "I'll miss you". I told her that "I'll miss you too" and she kept saying "I'll miss you too, I'll miss you too". So precious....
I cried yesterday on M's mother's shoulder during a hug after M walked out the door. Not because she wanted me too or invited, but because I was a pile of mush once M walked over that threshold, perhaps never to return. God gave me another gift yesterday through M's mom. As I cried during out hug, she told me, "you did a really good job" and thanked us for everything. That made me cry harder. I know we finished this thing well and we can be proud, no matter what anyone else thinks. But it is hard, knowing that others' thoughts of us might be what keeps us from seeing her again.
Well...that is all for now.
Thanks Adrienne for your friendship and for your knowing of me through this...I love you too. |